A Christian Wife: The Good Goodbye

Every morning, my husband has the same routine. Chris usually wakes up at 5am, works out, takes a shower, gets dressed, attends to a few things around the apartment, runs errands (unbelievable, isn’t it!), pours his coffee and then reads the Bible. Around 7:30 or 8:30 am, depending on the day, he come back to the bedroom to wake me up. Yes, folks, all before I have so much as batted an eye, he has had a full day. One thing my husband is not is lazy.

On the other hand, I am still working on my morning routine. It has no set pattern of behavior. It’s random and really is determined on my night before. There are times when I go to bed at 10pm and other times at 2am, but usually it’s around midnight. Long after my husband has fallen into his evening coma, I am running around doing a variety of things, from cleaning up the kitchen to working on this blog. I definitely enjoy doing my chores and hobbies in the PM more than the AM. For as long as I can remember, whenever the moon springs alive in the night sky and the stars began to twinkle, so did I. My most productive time of the day usually begins when others are ready to turn it in.

So, back to my mornings. One of the things that motivates me to get up in the morning is to say goodbye to Chris. I don’t mean just wave him off with a mumbled “Bye” and “Luv ya!” while safely tucked away in my sheets. While I am guilty of that on occasion, I never really feel good about it. Whenever I make the effort to make him breakfast, pray and connect with him before the day gets busy, it makes me feel like a better wife and, most importantly, a better friend to him.

It is easy for couples to grow apart. There are so many things vying for attention, from work to kids to everyday life. The messages of love you once cherished can start to get lost in translation. My belief is that if I am not my husband’s best friend, then someone else will be more than happy to step up to the plate. Just like any friendship, you have to work hard to maintain it.

Although I am a lazy morning person, I don’t want that to be an excuse to be lazy wife. Sometimes, my conversation and prayer with him may be the only thing that keeps him sane amidst the craziness that can be his day. While I may not always able to be as alert and coherent as I want to be every morning, my hope is that my morning routine with him can be a building block to make our marriage strong. Now as for getting up at 5am with him, I’m going to need a little more time, prayer, and coffee!