Becoming A Christian Wife: What Am I Watching?

There was a time in my life when watching Sex and the City was my guilty pleasure. The adventures of Charlotte, Miranda, Samantha and, of course, Carrie seemed like so much fun to me. Yeah, I know they had problems, but it always worked out, and despite all else, they had each other. I related to these women and the issues they faced in their weekly episodes. Their lifestyles were unbelievable – they shopped at the best places, ate at the best restaurants, wore beautiful clothes, and had successful careers. At a certain level, I desired to live the fabulous life just like they did. Christian or not, this was a fun fantasy!

Now that I actually live in Manhattan and am married, I thought about the kind of imprint these shows left on my heart and mind. While most would argue that Sex and the City was just a show and not reality, I am left wondering if that is really true. As much as I loved how they explored woman’s issues, and related to their experiences, I needed to take a hard look at what was really going on.

According to the website Hollywoodbackwash.com, these women have had sex with 94 men and 1 woman. This is how it is divided among them:

Let’s set those numbers aside for a second and take into account that most of them ended up married, as depicted the movie.  Look at the drama and heartbreak it took to get there. I think Carrie’s story is the most troubling for me. After years of loving a man who didn’t love her, who left her at the altar and married another woman, Carrie finally reconciled with and married him.  I asked myself,

Most women, Christians included, relate to these dynamics and experiences. While I understand these feelings, I said to myself,

I know! This was my story for years. I knew that God had someone for me one day, but until that time I fed my mind, heart and spirit with ungodly images and values that were contrary to my faith in God.  I mean,

I related more to these women than any Christian woman I knew, but was that their problem or mine?

Psalm 101:3 says,

Based on this verse I knew the problem was me. It was my responsibility to exercise my moral compass. Sex and the City along with The Real Housewives series, my other guilty pleasure, were in no way building up my faith or morals. The Bible teaches me that I am either obeying the Lord or I’m not. There is no middle ground. This thought hit me when I read Psalm 101:2,

I knew in my heart that these shows were immoral. There was fighting, pre-marital sex, pride, greed, cursing – and I’m talking about just one episode! No way would I want the Lord to see me looking at such things. Then I thought about it some more,

If I am going to be blameless before God and man, I can not continue to desensitize my heart with corrupt, degrading and ungodly things. Proverbs 23:4 says,

Perhaps I related to these women because my heart was being led to the same place as theirs. If I am determined to be a Christian wife, then I must guard my heart and my home from anyone and anything that could lead down a wrong path. As innocent as television seems, much of it is in conflict with the Word of God. One cannot guard against something that they willingly let in.

As I continue to grow in Christ, so must my standards. I must shed the worldly layers of my former self.  By default, stepping closer to God will move me away from the world’s corruptions. It is not an easy process, but it is always a rewarding one.

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